The holidays are a good time to reconnect with your daughter. The security and sense of belonging that this season inspires can lead to good times and even better conversations. Following are a few ways for you to connect with your daughter over the holidays.
• Tell a Story: Stories are a way to teach, and to make sense of our lives. Because it is the women in a family who often keep the traditions alive, this is the perfect time to talk about what Christmas (or Hanukkah or Kwanzaa or Thanksgiving) was like for you, or for your mother or grandmother.
• Cook a special food: Whether it’s lefse or latkes, now’s the time to instruct your girl in the art of your family’s ethnic cuisine.
• Enjoy a winter sport: Doing active things together is a great way to stay close. Try ice skating, skiing, sledding, or a winter walk.
• Establish your own tradition: Not all old family traditions are a good fit. Feel free to throw out the awkward ones and start a few new ones of your own, such as volunteering to help needy children, attending a holiday parade, voicing the things you are thankful for, or making your own gifts.