Life can seem like anything but a holiday the first few years of trying to organize your stepfamily’s special events schedule. Especially if the parents involved are not communicating well, the holidays can be a time of unparalleled anxiety and frustration. Anything you can do to soothe tensions in your household and between households will give both you and your kids a whole new reason for thanksgiving.
Anticipate change and discuss it frankly. When parents divorce and remarry, a first family is irrevocably changed. That doesn’t mean that things will be bad, but they will be different.
Expect that things will be difficult and that there will be frustrations and when they come, have a plan.
Expect to share your child, who is now a part of two households. Don’t anticipate having her company for all the important times in life.
Don’t criticize the other parent or household. No matter how you feel about her other parent or household, your girl is part of that family, and nothing will change that fact. Accept it and respond respectfully to all the people in your daughter’s life.